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In-Laws and breastfeeding |
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Written by Leslye Adelman, M.S., CCE, IBCLC
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Tuesday, 29 July 2008 |
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Dear Lactation Consultant:
I love my in-laws but I am not looking forward to the pressure I anticipate from them when it comes to breast feeding. They are older, from another country, did not breast feed their five children and already I am hearing talk about buying a scale so we know how much weight the baby is gaining since we will not be able to see what the baby is getting from my breasts. What should I do so I don’t insult them?
Marina Maravilla
Glendale, CA
Dear Marina:
Yours is a very common concern and I understand your anxiety. I often find asking your pediatrician or lactation consultant to spend a few minutes with your in-laws to discuss their interest in their grandchild’s feeding, which hopefully will make them more comfortable. Take them to a prenatal breastfeeding class with you, if you do not feel they are imposing on your private time.
I do not recommend renting or purchasing a scale, as it will become a game and if not used appropriately, will not show growth as it should, which will only make everyone in the house more anxious.
Once the baby has arrived, find other chores to keep your in-laws busy at feeding times, so they do not interfere with feedings and you have privacy. Once breastfeeding is well established (2-6 weeks,) you can introduce a bottle and your in-laws will be delighted to be able to participate in an occasional feeding.
I hope you find these suggestions helpful. I don’t know where you are delivering, but most of the hospitals in the Glendale area have consultants who might be willing to speak with your in-laws as well.
Good luck,
Leslye
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